When i call you to go hang out its because i want to hang out with you. Not you and your boyfriend.....not you and your girlfriend...just you. damn i know i've been guilty of this many a time...but damn karma is a bitch. It sucks when you call your homies or your homegirls to hang out and one of four things happens(though some occur way more often than others)....and each one makes me go fucking crazy out of my mind : 1. They say "Yeah we can chill... blah blah blah.... chit chat.... .....w/e bottom line is....the bf//gf is coming along. Like really? You have to come along? To hang out us? Its not like we know eachother anyways, you're just going to be bored, making things akward for all of us and probably prevent a future hang out session because of the akwardness you thrusted upon us. Lets face it...No one acts the same in the presence of their loved one. I know i don't.... When its me and my boys its our time to be stupid, say stupid things, or whatever we please....in other words, have fun(yeah i call my homegirls "boys" too). When the gf//bf is around your friends won't do or say the same things they normally would when their lover isn't around. Way to rain on the parade... 2. They say well i havn't seen my bf//gf all day long n he//she wants to spend some time together. That's code for : My bf//gf is an ass and doesn't want me to go have fun without him//her...
Because really? You have to see eachother every day? You can't go one day without seeing someone or you'll lose your sanity and compsure? Geez get a grip on yourself, go have some fun with your friends and let your other do the same instead of dragging one another around with eachothers friends only to be bored, ignored, and left out of the conversations...or not knowing what the conversation is really about. Like girls having girl talk, we're like..".uh....who gives a shit." and guys tallking about cars. Girls are like, "Augh!! great...., cars again, i swear they talk about the same damn thing everytime.This is going to be a long boring day. 3.You make plans, everything is set! You call your buddy up and they say, "Yeah, hey i can't go...me and my bf//gf got into a fight." That's code for: My bf//gf and i got into a fight because he//she doesn't want me to hang out with you. If you are in whipped...i mean in absolute check to the point where you can't even hang out with your friends because your partner has got you under his//her thumb. You guys are OBVIOUSLY at eachothers throats often. My sister once gave me some really good advice...and i quote "If and your lover bring out the worst of eachother, than you're not right for eachother." In with that quote, out with the stupid " If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." quote. I think what my sister was trying to say was, just because you fight a lot doesn't mean you don't love eachother, it just means you two weren't meant to be. Why be with someone for so long when the majority of the time spent together is fighting. Sure between the fights and frustration lay giddy feelings that you woudln't trade for the world....but put them on a scale...is it really worth it? You can find better, else where. There are 6.2 billion people on this planet, you really think he//she is the only one thats going to make you happy? 4. The fourth thing is probably the rarest....but it happens. Its essentially the exact situation as the third....only instead of giving you the "we got into a fight" excuse. They give you the " My bf//gf got invited to a _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ <---- - - - - - - - - - [ insert choice of plan//activity here] and he//she really wants me to go with him//her. Which is sometimes true...but sometimes just a way for the bf//gf to abandon prior plans...Once again....way to rain on a parade....get a life. It's ok to love a person, but revolving your life around another being is probably the biggest mistake anyone can make. There are exceptions, but i don't think me nor any of my friends are getting married anytime soon, i'd give it at least another 5 years...at least. Revolving your life around another being is suffocating, makes one feel so claustrophobic, and nostolgic of your voice. Its a proven fact, people need space, people like to be alone, people like change. When things being routine or ritual, thats when relationships begin to dull and take the final turn towards a steep downhill with a brick wall at the end. I hope you're wearing your seat belts... I think I've rambled enough.... This post isn't directed at any one in particular, its just what crosses my mind sometimes. I know i too have been guilty of this...and for that i apologize. It just really sucks when you want to hang out with familar faces, but they can't or they have this......other person attached to them. I'm sure everyone feels the way i do sometimes....and if you're reading this, take it as a hint. Spend some times with your friends with and without your lover. Sometimes, its nice to make things like they used to be. Be considerate. And if you're the bf//gf who won't give your partner any leash.....THIS paragraph is for you. Be considerate, be compassionate, be more selfless...the world doesn't revolve around your feelings. | 
